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Take a Break to Listen—a 5 Minute Practice

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Take a Break to Listen—a 5 Minute Practice

Years before Yoga Among Friends was a place, it was a concept of my heart. I wanted to create community, a place of belonging to something greater and not call it a “church”. I wanted to create an environment where the quality of peaceful sound could be witnessed and enjoyed. Chanting was still a long way from being a comfortable vehicle for calm. The mind is often resistant to creating one’s own internal vibration and it only creates more stress.

A year before opening the center, I walked into an art studio in Breckenridge, Colorado. Immediately, I was drawn to the sound of running water and fell in love with a handmade foundation with aspen leaves imprinted inside. A piece of art that spoke to my heart. I knew I found my expression of peace. It’s hard to believe the power of sound on the nervous system. It is the gateway to being able to shift from hearing noise to actually listening to the soul. The ability to tune into the active skill of listening is the gateway from shifting attention from the chatter of the little mind to being absorbed in the quality of ease.

For those that enter into our studio, the fountain continues circulating her flow of water, and she is still the welcoming reminder to slow down, take in a breath, settle into the experience of presence. She welcomes me each time I come into our reception area. She directs my attention to her steady circulation of the sound of her water trickling and the effect shifts my busy, roaming mind into presence. I have entered the sacred space of the studio. My mood shifts and the calm comes over me and I exhale. Each time I enter YAF, I am grateful for her steady and consistent sound. I water her as I would a plant, I care for her as I would a student.

We are all connected to the beauty of sound and movement; and yet, we do not hear or see clearly when we are too distracted with our worry, doubts, and fears. The sound of water is so healing for me since I too am flowing water. My nervous system needs to be nourished, and my physical body must flow with the movement of the breath as well. Inhale and exhale, the constant grace of being alive.

All life is movement; and yet, we are moving too quickly and not in the pace of grace. My heartbeat cannot keep up with the pushing and striving of my little mind directing me to do MORE. But when I walk into the studio, I immediately pause to listen. The fountain reminds me to be absorbed in her qualities of ease.

Sound offers the ability to deeply listen, go inward and nourish the deeper essence of our “beingness”. Noise is all around us. The constant bombarding words just keep us occupied with false information, angry tones of blame, and cries for help. How do we stop all this chatter in our minds and the moods that swing from being too anxious to just too exhausted to care anymore?

Hands holding a candle - I have a choice

I offer this simple 5-minute practice. Please sit, and stop doing, thinking, or making anything. Just take a break to listen. Listen to the sounds around you. Feel your body settle into the chair or floor. Lie down or sit or just stand still. Notice the sounds around you. If the noise is too loud, just notice. Don’t judge or fix the outer world to make your world peaceful. Just be. If the mind is too loud with critical words, just listen. Observe the sounds without fixing them. Traffic outside, movement of life is just happening. It is not your role to fix it.

Then take ten breaths. Notice the belly expanding on inhale. Can you breathe into the whole pelvic floor without grasping or pulling at the breath? Just let it come in. Welcome the breath as pure grace. Be grateful for that sweet breath. Feel it. Now, just exhale and let it go. Notice the belly pull in as the breath moves out.

Continue observing the inhale as it meets the exhale. Now listen. Begin the ujjayi breath. That internal whisper breath. Choose to listen, choose to bring your mind into the feeling of the breath. What does it feel like? Notice your words. Can it just be enough to observe the thoughts moving through without fixing? Yes, It is more than enough to just listen, breathe, and feel your LIFE. What a grace to be present for just this moment.

After this five minutes of unplugging from the habit of doing and focusing on the sound of the breath’s movement, feel the effects of this simple practice. Then offer a blessing to the world. Peace is now being offered from your heart. Light a candle. Watch the flame move and feel the flame. That beauty, that light is in you. You just turned your pilot light on. Allow that inner light to shine into the world.

We can heal and we can share this love. You can choose where to place your attention and it starts with listening. And if you are truly brave, chant AUM and feel the vibration of your true sound. I hear words, but I listen to the heart.

Please practice this daily as we hold vigil for the light moving towards the winter solstice. It is a practice for this season. We are practicing together and as a community, we can be the light in the world. Choose to be peaceful, choose to be the love in the world. 

So now it’s your turn. How was this practice for you? I would love for you to share your comments and thoughts about your practice below.

With love and light,

Laura

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Listening to My Elf Self

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Listening to My Elf Self

Years ago, I wrote a piece about our inner elf, that your elf leads you to embrace your True Self. From the word, SELF, I took away the letter S. It was then I saw the trickster at work; our little mind, our inner elf is always hiding within our true greater Self.

At times, we are reminded that our little elf is distracting us with all the ways we avoid coming inward. The mind is playing tricks with the constant chatter of outer noise and shiny objects. How the elf loves to trick us up with distractions. But to go inside to that inner sanctuary of stillness and be absorbed in the quality of calming, gentle peacefulness, the elf can rest in its greater Self, the soul.

I’m reminded of the elf as I have been in the land of great mystic possibility. Leading my retreat in Iceland, the land of fire and ice, these last ten days has awakened my curiosity about the elf, the trolls, and the magic that this land inspires. 

Our daily lives are so consumed with the pragmatic rituals of staying busy. Our schedules are filled with necessary “doing” activities that we seldom ever allow our mind to come back to the essence of pure “being”.

The habit or pattern of the learned mind is to strive. We are, as a collective, wired to the need to do more. Survival is linked to the primal need of sustaining our physical body at the expense of suffering in our emotional and spiritual life. Slowing down is not our pattern, nor is letting go of the outcome.  To actually make time and space to come inward is counterintuitive to our little mind. 

 Coming to this amazing place to nourish, the elf has led me inward. Laughter, humor, and the curious nature of my elf wanted me to make this extraordinary journey.  Nature is the greatest reminder of connection to the Source.

For the last two years, throughout all the obstacles of Covid-19, I have held the intention of coming to this distant land. It has not disappointed. I had no idea my elf was calling me. I had become numb to the sweet trickster and I had to fall in love again with the magic.

Life offers magic every day but we are not aware of the beauty within. The struggle might be there but the choice to let go of suffering is the joy of being connected to your inner elf Self. Smile, shine and enjoy today. Life is good and we are so blessed to LIVE IT.

Let us nourish our mental and emotional health by listening to that little voice that is beckoning us to come inward. Notice how the cortisol levels shift and our nervous system can relax just by breathing with the awareness of the longer exhales.

So many of us are suffering from the trauma of the past two years and the systems are wired for flight or fight. Yoga is not a pathway to perfection but tools for learning how to S “elf” love. That little elf is always beckoning, listen!! Can you hear the inner giggle? I know your intellect will say it’s silly. Oh please let’s be lighter and more joyous even in the midst of uncertainty. There is love.

Has your little elf been beckoning? I’d love to hear which tools have you found to slow down and search for joy? Please leave a comment below.

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Tribute to the risk of loving large and being RAW with humanity

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Tribute to the risk of loving large and being RAW with humanity

Parinama Krama (moment to moment living) is what I have been practicing all summer after I was told my sweet dog, CeeCee, only had weeks to live. Last week, she told me it was time. My heart is breaking as I witness the profound loss, not just my dog, but all over the world—the global navigation of loss and confusion over the horrors of war, fires, hurricanes, and a virus still thriving.

These uncertain moments of living are presenting an opportunity for deep reflection. I have been so humbled by the effort of healing as I struggle with hours of physical therapy to regain my hand’s mobility. Who would have thought surgery to repair a small bone break would result in nerve damage and weeks of physical discomfort? Yes, healing is not comfortable. Change is difficult and life can presents days where we find solace in the deep but good gut-wrenching sobs. 

Life is beautiful even in its darker moments. 

CeeCee and Colby

CeeCee and Colby

Today, I have the opportunity to choose how I see the day. What lens is witnessing the last breath of my best buddy? Thank you, CeeCee, for all the years of joy and unconditional love you gave to our family and to all who knew you. You are such a source of love, and your presence helped me so much as I spent hours just sitting during covid and felt your healing heart. Laughter and tears are all part of this ride. 

I ask myself always, “is this choice harming or healing?” “Is this action moving me towards harming or healing?” “Are these thoughts harming or healing?” Such a difficult line at times considering it’s all from my lens. 

My practice is to clear the lens enough so that I can arrive at the clarity needed to live life making choices that offer the greater possibility for future healing. I use the word, healing, as love. All love is healing. However, am I in a conscious place of cultivating this viveka kiyati (a bright decerning clarity), one that has no room for doubt? A peaceful clarity that allows for the confidence of living from that place. Cultivate integrity by rooting and establishing a new foundation in Sat Yam, a truth of rigorous self-honesty. 

Our country is divided right now on a simple object. The object is just a piece of cloth. The use of it for some has become an object of harm; for others, it is seen as an object of love. What is the thought behind each individual seeing this object with such extreme difference? What story is the small mind telling behind the lens? What memory is holding me hostage to my opinion? What am I projecting onto that simple object?

Some see the object as a harmful, a restricted vice of suffocation and lack of breath; while others might see it as a caring expression for living in respect for the vulnerable.  I ask questions all the time to reflect on the possibility for the highest good.

I do have a choice. I am able to listen within and admit I don’t know intellectually yet what arises in my physical experience is a quality of ease. Ease is a peaceful sensation of being willing to accept what is being presented in the moment. 

This virus is a fact. Respect for others is my greater mission and so I choose to love more. I wear a mask; I got vaccinated. As a mom, I used religious exceptions so my young daughter never had vaccines in elementary school. As a healthy woman, I refused flu vaccines until thankfully had one prior to my father dying during a lockdown in the rehab center during a huge flu outbreak. Somehow my inner voice told me to get the shot five months prior. I was blessed to be by his side on his sacred day of passing. 

I struggle in attachment to my learned patterns and habits of judging. I practice the acceptance that my thoughts are learned, and I understand I might be seeing wrong and be too attached to the outcome.  Maybe my old beliefs are not serving the integrity of what would lead me towards greater freedom. What is truly causing my pain? Not being seen? Not being heard? Can I accept that perhaps that longing to be seen IS my pain?  Maybe my truth is living fully in the joy that I am being seen by the source.

Can it be enough to heal? Oh, there is no doubt that this shift from looking out to going inward has been my greatest pathway towards healing and towards learning to self-love and forgive myself for being human. I’m learning every day to make better choices in the direction of love.

Maybe the entire world right now must just continue to grieve and reestablish a connection to the deeper essence of love. To learn self-acceptance, forgiveness, and compassion. Thank you, CeeCee, for being my teacher and helping me. I am forever grateful for your love and for allowing me the honor of holding you as you let go. You might be leaving your form, but your love is only expanding. 

Please let us practice the art of loving kindness to ourselves moment to moment as we move into the fall season. May we continue to shine love through our eyes and be comfortable with heartbreak as a glorious way to welcome humility and honor being human. 

May we all continue to share in this greater good and come together without the need to resist but to open our hearts and help our community in respect. We continue to honor the protocol of masks and to keep our center open and thriving.

With Light and Love,

Laura Jane

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