The Lifeline of Love: A Reflection on Mystery, Kindness, and the Human Heart

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The Lifeline of Love: A Reflection on Mystery, Kindness, and the Human Heart

If you had the pleasure of looking up into the night sky over the past few nights, you may have seen the beautiful full moon moving across the sky.

For me, the lunar eclipse felt auspicious—an opportunity to observe the wonder of mystery.

We understand so much through the realm of the intellect. We gather information, search for answers, and try to make sense of our lives. But the grace of mystery invites us into the heart, the gateway of the soul.

Wonder allows us to accept the journey without certainty of the outcome.

This past week offered me humble memories and profound gratitude for all the moments in my life that somehow brought me to this one.

Are the paths of our lives random? Or is there some greater force of nature aligning circumstances and carrying us toward experiences we could never have planned?

Perhaps we will never know.

And then there is free will. We still have to choose.

Somehow, I ended up on the path of studying and teaching yoga.

The grace of mystery invites us into the heart, the gateway of the soul.

The Strange Turns of a Life

This week, two amazing souls who touched my life in very different and profound ways took their departure into that great expansive space.

Their passing brought me back to another lifetime.

I was living in Los Angeles in the 1980s, following my passion for acting, when I somehow landed a full-time job working on The Dolly Parton Show.

Dolly had already found enormous success in music and had crossed into Hollywood after starring in the hit film 9 to 5. Then came television, with a weekly variety show filled with music, comedy, and an extraordinary parade of performers.

How did this New York City girl suddenly find herself there?

Luck?

Destiny?

Another strange turn on the path?

Years earlier, I had been a cocktail waitress at a Marriott lounge in Washington, D.C.—one of the many jobs I took to support my habit of looking for acting work.

My manager took great pleasure in calling me, “Laura Lye Janey Jones, you dizzy girl on the cocktail floor.”

Yes, my personality has followed me.

Years later, after arriving in Los Angeles and trying to find acting work, I created a comedy character using that name for a little show I wrote and performed in a small theater.

One evening, producers came to see the show and invited me to audition for a new project they were producing.

And somehow, that little character helped lead me to Dolly.

 

What I Remember About Dolly

How blessed I was to share even a small part of that adventure and to know such an extraordinary human being.

Dolly possessed enormous talent and an incredible commitment to her work.

But what stays with me now is something quieter.

Dolly was all heart.

Her beauty was in her kindness. Her gracious humor. Her humility. She had that rare ability to make people feel welcome in her presence.

She inspired us with an abundance of love.

And this week, as the world mourned her passing, I found myself remembering not the fame or the spectacle, but the human being.

The heart.

 

When One Path Ends

After the show ended, Hollywood entered a long and difficult writers' strike.

My acting career was stalling, and I was creating far too much pain around something I could no longer force into being.

In one particularly difficult moment, I heard two words very clearly:

Yoga retreat.

That is another long story for another blog.

But I listened.

I surrendered into a new role—as a yoga student and eventually a yoga teacher.

Before long, I had more work in this new direction than I could possibly sustain. Through another series of circumstances I never could have planned, I found myself teaching actors and artists and sometimes housesitting while people traveled between film sets.

One of those people was Tim Curry.

The brilliant talent behind The Rocky Horror Picture Show became a friend. During a difficult period in my own life, while I was separating from my first marriage, Tim generously offered me refuge in his beautiful home.

He later became a student, and eventually I was able to find an apartment of my own and continue moving forward.

I remain forever grateful for his generosity, and I mourn his passing this week as well.

It has felt as though the night sky has gained the brilliance of a few new stars.

A week of grieving.

A week of celebrating.

A week of welcoming again the mysterious collage of living.

Just living.


The People Who Meet Us Along the Way

I marvel at the path that brought me here.

Life is a huge journey made up of very small baby steps. Some steps take us forward. Some seem to take us backward, only to give us a perspective we could not have found any other way.

The message I keep hearing is simple:

Welcome the stranger.

We never know who may become a teacher, a friend, a refuge, or an unexpected part of our story.

Laura Jane sharing a joyful moment with a member of the Yoga Among Friends community

I know I am right where I am supposed to be as I continue teaching and trying, in my own imperfect way, to pass forward the kindness that has been given to me.

I believe human beings are intrinsically kind and compassionate.

It is often the little mind—our fears, biases, patterns, and familiar ways of protecting ourselves—that keeps us hidden from the heart.

I keep learning.

I keep tripping over my own stuck places of doubt.

I look at the outer world and sometimes forget that there is another gateway, deeper inside.

And when I take the time to reflect, to go inward into those chambers of memory, I can see something I could not always see while I was living it:

There was always a lifeline of love.

The mystery may be learning to trust that lifeline even when we cannot see where it leads.

I still have faith that we are better than much of what we hear and see.

We are all capable of profound goodness.

And perhaps that is the practice.

Not perfection.

Not certainty.

Remembering the goodness.

 

What Would Dolly Do?

I think I am going to make a T-shirt that says:

What would Dolly do?

Because when life throws another obstacle into my path, when I become overwhelmed by fatigue or fear, I can remember that I still have a choice.

Today, I have a choice.

I can choose kindness.

I can choose humor.

I can choose to keep my heart open.

Life is a blessing, and I intend to keep creating characters, laughing at my own wild side, and welcoming people into whatever small space I can create where joy might thrive.

Yoga Among Friends is an expression of that longing in me—a place to welcome humanity into the sweetness of life.

A collection of wonderful souls reminding one another how to live fully on this wild ride.

At Yoga Among Friends, everyone is welcome.

It truly is the journey, not the destination.

Let's keep creating.

Let's keep sharing the goodness.

Let's keep our hearts open.

I look forward to seeing you soon.

With love,
Laura Jane


A Question for Reflection

Who has offered you an unexpected kindness that changed the direction of your life?

Perhaps they knew what they were giving you. Perhaps they never did.

I would love to hear who comes to mind in the comments below.

 

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From Darkness to Light: Choosing Hope Through Practice

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From Darkness to Light: Choosing Hope Through Practice

The path forward starts within. From darkness toward light is the journey of practice.

Today, I have a choice.

I can shift my attitude and choose to see what is beautiful and abundant in the world.

I may not be able to change what is happening in the outer world, but I have the freedom to create a more sustainable reality within my thoughts. I am choosing to be joyous and to love life with all my heart.

This is not always easy. My intellect wants to remind me of everything that is wrong with the world. However, through my ardent efforts to sustain my intention in practice, I can begin to feel a shift.

There is an opening—a little more spaciousness within my awareness. In this moment, I can return to the right thought, right words, and the next right action.

I may not be able to change what is happening in the outer world, but I can choose how I meet this moment.

Returning to an Ancient Practice

I recently returned from a 12-day intensive commitment to the practice of the Sri Suktam mantras.

Laura Jane with fellow yoga practitioners outside the Sri Vidya Shrine at the Himalayan Institute

Laura Jane with fellow practitioners outside the Sri Vidya Shrine at the Himalayan Institute.

I joined other practitioners in a community devoted to sharing a higher consciousness of love rather than following the easier path of fear. Together, we participated in the Sri Suktam Yaga.

The Sri Suktam is an ancient collection of mantras honoring Sri, the Divine Mother, and the creative life force of Shakti.

Individually, I chanted the 15 verses 47 times. Together, through the power of our group effort, we completed 20 recitations in the shrine.

Each day, I also participated in a two-hour fire ceremony while my teacher, Pandit Rajmani Tigunait, chanted the mantras.

I had experienced this practice in India in January and knew that I wanted to return to it again six months later.

We were offering our individual efforts to the ultimate Source of all life.

The offering was made in the spirit of the Divine—something far greater than my individual existence and far greater than words can define.


Offering What No Longer Serves Us

The intention of the ceremony is to transform the darkest parts of our thoughts and the negative tendencies held within our samskaras.

We offer these patterns into the fire with the intention of renewing ourselves and returning to the world with a lighter, more expansive quality of awareness.

Fire ceremony space prepared for Sri Suktam practice at the Himalayan Institute

The fire ceremony offered a sacred space for mantra, reflection, and transformation.

Life is impermanent, and yet there is an unchanging essence within each of us that is pure, vibrant, and radiant light.

This practice is thousands of years old. Being connected to this beautiful commitment has restored in me the value of humanity and the continuous flow of something greater than my words can express.

I often say, “To name it is to lose it.”

There are experiences we cannot fully define. We can only allow ourselves to receive them.

There is an unchanging essence within each of us that is pure, vibrant, and radiant light.

Receiving a Glimmer of Awe

To receive a glimmer of this AWE, simply walk out into nature.

Appreciate each breath of air meeting your skin. Feel the immense wonder of the earth underneath your feet. Stand in the space where the sky meets you, and be present to the nourishment of being alive in this moment.

Life is precious.

We can be grateful for every moment, even while recognizing the suffering and uncertainty that exist around us. We can choose the thoughts we nourish and the energy we bring into the world.


When the Outer World Feels Uncertain

I could not make it home on Monday, July 27, because horrific storms were churning and creating havoc in the airways.

Trees were falling. Electrical grids were crashing. Once again, we were all reminded of our powerlessness before the immense strength of Mother Nature.

The intensity of these storms is another reminder of the uncertainty we are learning to navigate.

I was fortunate to find another flight early Tuesday morning and to spend the night in an airport hotel. I was grateful to have the resources to care for my well-being.

At the same time, I was aware that millions of souls throughout the world struggle simply to find shelter each day.

The vulnerable state of our world is a constant reminder that we must keep possibility and hope alive.


Tending the Inner Pilot Light

Despair can lead us toward inertia—a heaviness of lethargy and apathy. The energy for living becomes dull, and the mind can lose interest in moving forward.

When depression or ongoing despair becomes part of our experience, compassionate professional support can be an important part of healing. Yoga does not replace that care, but our practice may help us remain connected to the light within.

In these turbulent times, the mind easily feeds on fear.

We must be willing to tend our inner “pilot light” and keep the fire of passion and possibility alive.

Just as a flower pushes through the earth, it seeks the light. The earth is rich, and water is needed to help the sweetness of life continue moving forward.

The flower does not deny the darkness. It moves through it.

The flower does not deny the darkness. It moves through it toward the light.

There is so much stagnation happening in the outer world. The conflict we experience within the fluctuating mind can make the wars and chaos of the outer world feel even more overwhelming.

The value of my practice is that it has offered me renewed energy and a renewed passion to inspire and serve.

There is an inner desire within all beings to move toward the light.

From darkness to light is the journey of a steady yoga practice.


Turning Up the Light Together

I am committed to sharing my heart and shining whatever light I can into a world in need of service.

Yoga Among Friends is a community where, together, we can turn up the light.

Our studio can be a safe harbor where souls may rest and feel the support of loving attention.

We are not helpless.

Humanity is amazing, and there is a profound shift happening as we begin to accept that the path forward starts within.

Our inner practice shapes how we meet one another. It shapes the words we speak, the choices we make, and the quality of attention we offer to the world.

We can choose love instead of fear.
We can choose possibility instead of despair.
We can continue moving from darkness toward light.


A Question for Reflection

What helps you tend your inner light when the outer world feels uncertain?

I would love to hear what helps you return to hope, possibility, and the sweetness of being alive.

With love,
Laura Jane


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The Sound That Leads Us Home

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The Sound That Leads Us Home

A reflection on Mantra, Truth, Love, and the Practice of Returning Inward.

As I sit down to inspire another blog post, I ask myself: what words are filling my thoughts?

My mind hears the language of harsh words, fear, distraction, and mental confusion. I notice how quickly the noise of the outer world can take me away from my balanced state of mind.

So I return to what I know.

I return to my practice.

I begin with sound, which precedes form. I begin with the sound of my own whisper breath. Thoughts arise, and my inner dialogue must be carefully chosen if I want to feed the deeper consciousness of my practice.

I set a small intention to make time and space. I want to invite sound and vibration as a pathway toward self-love. My mind wants to rush. It wants to turn practice into another item on the daily checklist.

But I know the respect of practice is not to demand what I want. It is to offer the opportunity for space to be revealed.

I do not know what that will look like.

I am only going to practice.

Sound, Form, and the Energy Body

The yogic teachings remind us that sound precedes form.

What we see as material form can also be understood through vibration, energy, and possibility. The physical body I live in is not only solid matter. It is also an energy body filled with vibrational potential.

Sound gives birth to form.

“In the beginning, there was the word.”

The sound.

My practice is mantra-focused. Mantras are sacred sounds that hold vibrational power and the potency to shift the limited reality that has been stuck in memory.

So often, our perception of the world is seeing only in material matter. We believe only what we can see. But mantra offers another way.

Mantra is protection for the mind.

“Man” means mind.
“Tra” means to cross over, or to protect.

Mantra helps us cross over the restless mind and begin to sense that maybe, just maybe, there is another way to see.

 

Mantra as a Pathway to Clarity

Our thoughts create the forms of our reality. If we feel bound or limited by that reality, practice can begin to shift our perception. Clarity can be revealed.

This is not an easy concept. It asks for a willingness to practice with an open mind and an open heart. It asks for a deeper commitment to the subtle tools of yoga.

I am always humbled to be a student, and I only offer the teachings that I have personally experienced. To teach is to meet the student where they are.

And so we begin with the grace of “not knowing.”

My entire commitment is to connect with the deepest part of myself that feels anything is possible. Reflecting on my life, I know I can shift the rudder ever so gently in another direction.

I must not strive to get there.

I must be willing to be here.

The effort is the commitment.

A slight shift from what I see in the outer landscape can open an inner place of possibility. What is the word for that feeling?

My mantra invites protection. It helps me cross over. I drop the language of fear and invite support. I ask to feel stable, steady, and held.


From Gross to Subtle

The tools of yoga move from gross to subtle, from the outer layers of the body toward the inner landscape of breath, mind, heart, and spirit.

The outer orientation of asana is the mastery of the physical structure, beginning with the spine. It includes alignment, stability, strength, and range of motion.

The inner orientation of asana is to make the body a spacious container for the breath. This prepares us for the tool of pranayama.

The outer orientation of pranayama is mastery of the physiology through the autonomic nervous system. Breath influences digestion, respiration, cardiovascular rhythms, immune function, and hormonal balance.

The inner orientation of pranayama is to make the breath a safe place for the mind. This prepares us for meditation.

Meditation begins with the wandering mind and the field of attention. We learn to notice distraction. We learn to focus more deeply. We learn to stay with what is actually here, rather than becoming lost in every thought or feeling.

This is where mantra becomes so helpful.

I begin by repeating it as a chant. I feel it and hear it. I offer it as a way to focus. Then, silently, I allow the mantra to become second nature as it links my mind inward.

The inner orientation of meditation is to make the mind a stable place for the heart. This prepares us for deeper prayer.

Mantra is the sound of prayer without the attachment to ego-driven desires to get, to fix, to control, or to do.

Mantra is the sound of prayer without the need to fix, control, or do.
 

Prayer, the Heart, and the Kleshas

Outer prayer arises from a desire to let go of resistance.

Thoughts simply move through.

There is a longing to let go of personality and patterned habits of attachment, aversion, and fear. In the teachings, these are called the kleshas — those habits of inner language rooted in learned behavior.

They are the familiar thoughts of resentment, insecurity, jealousy, greed, envy, and pride.

They are the ways we keep ourselves comfortable in our discomfort.

The inner orientation of prayer is to make the heart a soft, open vessel for the Divine. It prepares us for sound. It allows the vibrational gifts of our nature to reveal themselves as loving, compassionate, courageous qualities of inner wisdom.

Words no longer hold us hostage to old beliefs.

Sound opens a space of pure potential.

The deeper place of this knowing rests in an orientation of silence as pure light. The intellect will never fully comprehend the immense space of this light, because words cannot fully wrap around the experience.

This experience is also constantly changing.

The effect is a peaceful, calming reality of feeling fully alive. There is a profound sweetness in being held by this experience.

The mind resting in that presence will meet each of us where we are. No human being is the same. We are not programmed for the fixed identity that the outer layers of society may try to dictate.

The Divine arises through each of us as our own unique experience. It is expressed as clarity — a way to respond in our own special way, in our own words.

The ability to extend kindness can become more effortless.

 

Practice in Turbulent Times

Humanity is asking us to pay attention and shift.

Our physical bodies are the vehicles through which the essence of love can be expressed throughout our life journey. Regardless of the challenges we are facing as we witness a changing world, commitment to practice becomes an assertion of human freedom.

Practice releases the energy we possess and allows us to take creative leaps together. The field of possibility opens. The beauty of living can be fulfilled with inner contentment.

We are here to illuminate and shine, and to allow resistance to be removed.

Now the practice is to stay open as we navigate turbulent times of change. We must feel rooted in the words that feed the loving heart.

Let us share the words that arise from our thoughts. May they inspire right action. May they extend from our true nature, filled with language that inspires healing.


Satyagraha: The Force of Truth and Love

I wanted to share the mantra that inspired this post: Satyagraha.

Satyagraha was Gandhi’s call for a movement rooted in truth, love, and nonviolence. He inspired India to embrace the movement's calling, as expressed in the mantra, which means “The force which is born of Truth and love and nonviolence.

The immense vibration of this word reminds me, with a smile, of the sword of light in the Star Wars saga and the phrase, “May the force be with you.”

But the true force is not domination.

The true force is love.

It is the sword of light that cuts through the darkness of our thoughts.

As we celebrate our nation’s 250th anniversary, may we return to the words that feed truth. May we practice the language of healing. May we listen for the sound that leads us home.


What word, prayer, or phrase helps you return to the steadier place within yourself?

Blessings,
Laura Jane

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